UN-listening skills

I had my first informal "conference" with my son's afternoon Pre-K teacher yesterday. It seems that he has been refusing to participate in circle time, and this causes a distruption for the other children. He does have issues with listening, but now my husband and I are at odds about what to do to help resolve the problem. I think my son needs more one-on-one structured time with mom and dad in the evenings and on weekends, where he has to follow instructions and directions (games, art, helping with chores, etc.). My husband's answer so far has been to scale back on tv and computer time, which is all well and good in general anyway, but he tends to lose sight of the root cause of the behavior. Just because you take away tv time does not mean you send the kid into his room for the majority of the evening by himself to have totally random, unstructured play time where he makes the rules and does whatever he wants. That does not solve the problem. It just confuses the kid! Taking away his toys and assigning an earlier bed time will also not address the bigger issue of the fact that my son is an only child, who although he's been in preschool or daycare of some form for half of his life, still prefers to be by himself a lot of the time and isn't crazy about being a "joiner". So, he's just like his mom! I think we need to plan more family time together, and I plan on buying a task chart for assigned chores and activities that make him develop his listening skills and make the idea of being part of the group seem more appealing to him. How many years of this do I have to look forward to, now???

Saw a bumper sticker on a jeep yesterday that said "If you can read this, roll me over". That's kind of how I feel. If you can see the look on my face this week, buy me a drink. I'll be your best frieeennnd!!